Belief is an inevitable part of success. Your beliefs are shaped by all the experiences you have had in your life, both positive and negative. Today, we have a short article from Marzena Bielecka who shares with us the link between beliefs and success and some simple tips to help build a positive mindset.
Take it away, Marzena!
“When there’s a will, there’s a way.” You’ve probably heard that phrase a 1,000 times. Sometimes when we hear things that sound too good to be true we simply ignore them. In my opinion, believing in yourself is the most important factor of building success in your life. If you don’t believe in yourself, your career or personal plans, who else will?
If you don’t believe in yourself, you’re defeated before you even start
Believing in yourself and your eventual success is something entirely in your control. It’s a way of thinking, usually separate from external circumstances. Many of the best university students never have successful careers. Whereas, many average students go on to achieve amazing success. The difference is simply self-belief.
Imagine a person who wants to apply to his or her ideal position but doesn’t believe that he or she is good enough to get the job, even though their skills and experience say otherwise. If this person somehow gathers the courage to actually apply, he or she will probably bomb the interview. Even if he or she gets the job, they might be too nervous and self-conscious to ask for a promotion in the future, and will never advance in their career.
“Loss of faith” is keeping you from getting what you deserve. Often people who are less talented but are more self-confident at work attract better opportunities. It often follows the proverb “fortune favors the bold”. When you look to the future optimistically, it smiles back at you.
If you aren’t afraid to fail, you’re probably not dreaming big enough
When you have big dreams, there isn’t anything wrong with feeling afraid. When you start your own business it can be overwhelming, doubts may creep in, and you may even question your own ideas. New ideas never sound good at first. You have to believe in yourself before others will want to follow you.
In the 70’s, when copy machines were considered cutting edge inventions, people looked at this hippie telling them, “one day every person will own a personal computer” like he was crazy. 20 years later this person, Steve Jobs, was known worldwide as the CEO of one of the most successful technology companies in the world. Just from the crazy idea of selling personal computers….
Focus on advantages, not disadvantages
I am not going to tell you to endlessly repeat the phrase “I will be successful”. That won’t work. Take some time and think analytically. Make a list of rational fears that prevent you from achieving your desired success. Of course, we have to divide the stress, which gives us motivation and irrational fear. Think how many times you were afraid before doing something? What does the fear gave you? It probably only stressed you out and didn’t let you perform as well as you could have if you were calm and confident. Evaluate the thought patterns that keep you from believing in yourself and your success.
Often, even ambitious people tend to believe that they are not good enough. They are so focused on improving their minor defects that they forget how good they are already. Focusing on your defects keeps you from grasping the whole situation clearly. If you really think that you’re missing some skills or experience, go ahead and try to acquire it, but don’t let that stop you from believing in yourself and your success.
Don’t look for perfect solutions, accept the good ones
Nobody said that everything has to be in place before you start believing in yourself and your success. You can believe even if you don’t have everything ready. First, clarify your goal and make sure that it’s realistic and achievable. Then ask yourself: “Do I believe that I can achieve it? If you answered yes, you should make a plan and stick to it. If you find yourself wondering if you can really achieve your goal, ask yourself: “Why do I not think that I can do it?”
Write down each argument that makes you think that you will not be able to achieve your goals. Think about them carefully, even the smallest reason is important to consider. Try finding solutions for even the smallest things that make you question your success.
Success comes when preparation meets opportunity
No matter what reasons you have for not believing in yourself and your success, you should know that no good will come from it. Try letting go of any negative thoughts you may have and focus more on positive feelings of self-confidence and self-worth. These factors will contribute to your eventual success. You won’t even realize how quickly your thoughts will get the forces of the world working in your favor. If you start believing in yourself, sooner or later others will believe in you too, and success won’t be far away.
Author Bio: Marzena Bielecka
I’m a freelance writer who is passionate about psychology and share my opinions at www.get-a-wingman.com. I have visited 40 countries, and lived in 4 of them. My main hobbies are observing people and talking to them and learning from them. I truly believe that it’s possible to learn a lesson from every experience and encounter in life.